Comments on: Finding Our Place: Social Acceptance for Non-Traditional Transmen http://trans.kolyafloit.com/archives/finding-our-place-social-acceptance-for-non-traditional-transmen Life of A Non-Standard Gay (trans)Guy Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:05:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Not Aiden http://trans.kolyafloit.com/archives/finding-our-place-social-acceptance-for-non-traditional-transmen/comment-page-1#comment-459 Not Aiden Sun, 31 Jan 2010 16:13:48 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=62#comment-459 LOL, I'm not complaining or anything. Just inviting others to join the fun :-P LOL, I’m not complaining or anything. Just inviting others to join the fun :-P

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]]> By: ShipofFools http://trans.kolyafloit.com/archives/finding-our-place-social-acceptance-for-non-traditional-transmen/comment-page-1#comment-458 ShipofFools Sun, 31 Jan 2010 16:12:20 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=62#comment-458 *ehem* *blushes* well, lol, let's start recruiting :-D *ehem* *blushes*

well, lol, let’s start recruiting :-D

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]]> By: Not Aiden http://trans.kolyafloit.com/archives/finding-our-place-social-acceptance-for-non-traditional-transmen/comment-page-1#comment-447 Not Aiden Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:14:58 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=62#comment-447 Yeah, I got more than a bit annoyed when I was first coming out and couldn't find a single gay trans guy to talk to who wasn't either butch, genderqueer, or formerly a lesbian. It's part of why I tried to stay in trans groups for so long, I wanted to make sure that my side of things got mentioned. It is possible to get away with a certain amount of effeminate clothing most of the time...it just can also be painful and constricting. I know guys who think the effort is worth it and other guys who prefer to wait until the T kicks in or they've had top. Just depends on how you're happier. Glad to know I've helped. Stick around, there are a couple of us who end up stealing posts and turning them into giant discussions :-P Yeah, I got more than a bit annoyed when I was first coming out and couldn’t find a single gay trans guy to talk to who wasn’t either butch, genderqueer, or formerly a lesbian. It’s part of why I tried to stay in trans groups for so long, I wanted to make sure that my side of things got mentioned.

It is possible to get away with a certain amount of effeminate clothing most of the time…it just can also be painful and constricting. I know guys who think the effort is worth it and other guys who prefer to wait until the T kicks in or they’ve had top. Just depends on how you’re happier.

Glad to know I’ve helped. Stick around, there are a couple of us who end up stealing posts and turning them into giant discussions :-P

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]]> By: Alex http://trans.kolyafloit.com/archives/finding-our-place-social-acceptance-for-non-traditional-transmen/comment-page-1#comment-445 Alex Sun, 31 Jan 2010 09:59:58 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=62#comment-445 It's unbelievably hard to find any info even relating to gay FTMs from anything other than a purely medical standpoint, much less effeminate gay FTMs. I'm not a total flamer...actually tbh my current look is more "girl wearing her fashion-resistant straight boyfriend's ill-fitting wardrobe" - but I do love glitter and looking nice, it just doesn't work with my current body. And you're right that it's particularly hard because we don't tend to come through the lesbian community. I know I feel acutely uncomfortable in "women's spaces" even when they're of the accepting, gender-deconstructing sort. I tend to feel like some sort of impostor. So you've identified a real information gap (and your blog is really helping to fill it for me at least). Thanks. It’s unbelievably hard to find any info even relating to gay FTMs from anything other than a purely medical standpoint, much less effeminate gay FTMs. I’m not a total flamer…actually tbh my current look is more “girl wearing her fashion-resistant straight boyfriend’s ill-fitting wardrobe” – but I do love glitter and looking nice, it just doesn’t work with my current body.

And you’re right that it’s particularly hard because we don’t tend to come through the lesbian community. I know I feel acutely uncomfortable in “women’s spaces” even when they’re of the accepting, gender-deconstructing sort. I tend to feel like some sort of impostor.

So you’ve identified a real information gap (and your blog is really helping to fill it for me at least). Thanks.

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]]> By: ShipofFools http://trans.kolyafloit.com/archives/finding-our-place-social-acceptance-for-non-traditional-transmen/comment-page-1#comment-143 ShipofFools Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:36:09 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=62#comment-143 Oh cool :-) Oh cool :-)

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